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My Habits To Wake Up With Joy

May12



Hi, everyone!!! I pray that you are all well and that your day has been good! I know mine has! Every day that God gives me is a good one! I pray that is your experience too!

I know that it’s often hard to wake up each day feeling joyful but I’m here tonight to give you a couple of tips on how to be sure that you wake to each morning with hope in your heart. There really are things that you can do to make sure that you have a good day. The kind of day you have is not just happenstance. It’s a choice! That’s the GOOD NEWS!

Many people believe that they will have either a good or bad day based on their circumstances, but this isn’t the way that it has to be. We CAN CHOOSE what kind of day we are going to have regardless of our circumstances. It really is a matter of your mindset. If you choose to look at what might go wrong, you choose to keep yourself on the defense throughout the day. If you’ve ever dealt with someone who is constantly defensive, and we all have, you know that it is a tiresome task. As hard as it may be to believe, dealing with defensiveness is tiring, not only for the person who is experiencing the blows of the attitudes that come with it, but it also drains every drop of energy from the person who has to keep up the guard. I don’t know about you, but I never really thought about that way. It makes sense though. How draining would it be to constantly feel that you have to fight every person and every word that comes your way?

I’m here to offer you some hope. Only one person gets to choose whether you are happy or unhappy. That person is you. Joy is a state of mind. I want to share a couple of things with you that I do to make sure that I KEEP my joy. I, often, tell friends, clients, and anyone else I think might need to hear it that no man can steal your joy except you give it to him. You wouldn’t hand someone your wallet with your cash in it. Would you? Of course not. Well, your peace of mind is much more valuable!! Hold on to your peace at ALL costs. You control your words and actions and a you will remain in control of your own joy.

Here are a couple of things that I do that truly help me to hold tightly to the joy that I possess. Let me tell you, joy is MUCH easier to hold onto than it is to get back once you lose it.

The first thing I’d like to share with you that I try to do to stay joyful is that I work to stay as close to God as possible. I keep His Word forever on my lips and in my heart and mind. I continually keep a dialogue going with my Savior throughout every day and every night. He WANTS us to be joyful!! If we stay close to Him, then He will help us to keep our joy in our possession. To do this, we must talk to Him often, repent continually, and strive every moment to obey His commands. Keeping His Word in our hearts will make that doable as we lean on Him for direction, strength, wisdom, and understanding.

The second way that we can work to be sure to begin each day with the joy that we want to maintain is to take care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Be sure to eat and sleep as healthily as possible. If you’re not nourished or rested, then your defenses will be down and you will have less control over your emotions. While you are taking care of your physical health, you should consistently be paying close attention to what you are thinking about. This might sound silly, but you can choose what you allow in your mind. Now, don’t get me wrong. You may not be able to stop thoughts from popping into your mind, but only YOU can decide how long you will think about it. The more quickly you replace an undesirable thought with a desirable one, the easier it will be to keep the negative thinking under control. If you struggle with this skill, then I highly encourage you to seek professional help. That help may come in the form of a life coach or therapist. I, personally, have exercises that I implement with my clients that I find to be very effective at helping to learn to control what a person is consistently thinking.

I hope that this has given you some food for thought. I can assure you that working on refining your thought life will prove to be valuable in your quest for happiness. There is NO substitute for this step to achieving lasting joy. Don’t hesitate to start working on these skills. I can promise you that you will wonder why you waited so long!!

Thanks for joining me and I look forward to meeting again soon. If I can help you to find the lasting joy that God longs for you to have, then I pray that you will get a hold of me. I, truly, believe that, in addition to an intimate walk with God, taking control of your thought life is one of the most important ingredients to living a Godly and joyful life.

Many blessings!!

Nikki Hodson

Owner/Christian Life Coach

Nikki Jordan Life Coaching

Grief During The Holidays

Oct22

I have recently and tragically lost someone who has been a good friend for most of my life. Because of this loss, I thought that I would post an article that I found about the grieving process. So many people misunderstand how grieving works and I want to help you all through these tough times.

Here’s the article. If you are grieving, then please know that I can help. You are welcome to contact me to set up some life coaching sessions. I look forward to helping you to get back on your feet!!

(Grief) Dealing with Special Days and Holidays By Dr Bill Webster

God bless!

Nikki Hodson

Nikki Jordan Life Coaching

Life Coach and Founder

The Nikki Jordan Life Coaching Chat Room

May2

Hi, All! In case you missed it, I am, FINALLY, getting my Nikki Jordan Life Coaching Chat Room set up!!!!! I’m SO EXCITED because I’ve wanted a way that we can discuss live! I have so many things that I want to share with you and have great hope that you, too, will share with me! So, this is the first step.

Also,  I’m not getting many comments or much feedback about what you all are enjoying or not or even what you think. I REALLY want to know!!! Maybe the chat room will be a place that we can do that. I’m praying that it will.  Tell me. What topics would you like to see me cover? I specialize in relationships and communication. I teach about self esteem and how to overcome negative thinking. There’s so much more that I’m qualified to help you figure out.

If you like what I have to say on here, then maybe you’d like to go further into your self actualization by working one on one with me. For those of you who don’t live close enough to see me face to face, then we can, certainly, work over the phone or even online. The choice is yours. My rates are reasonable and my hours are flexible for the most part.

I’m eager to have the opportunity to help you become all you were created to be!!!
God bless,

Nikki

 

You can reach me at 765-243-0507. If you can’t reach me by voice, then you are welcome to text. Even if I don’t have minutes, then I DO always have texting. Thanks again and I look forward to talking with you!!!!

 

Regrets

Mar31

Hi, All! It’s late here and I’m not going to write a bunch, but I do have something on my heart that I feel that The Lord wants me to share with  you.

Up until maybe the last year or two, I would throw the biggest fit when I didn’t get my way. Yes. I’m confessing to  you all. But, God NEVER gave up on me and others who are close to me have marveled at the difference in me.

So, what’s different? Well, my walk with God is different. I’ve learned to trust Him more and not to get upset when things don’t go my way. You see. I never KNEW that I could live if things didn’t go my way! Isn’t that sad??? I think it is.

But, here’s what God has done for me. God has changed me!!! He’s helped me to know that it’s OK if things don’t go my way. He’s also let me know that He forgives me for my childish behavior and that I can be strong and ask forgiveness of others.

Well, I’ve asked the forgiveness that I’ve needed to ask and I feel like a brand new person!  Things are coming together and, more importantly, my relationships are being renewed and restored!!! I can’t tell you how thankful I am!!! I’ve learned that God is all that I need and that if He hasn’t given it to me, then I didn’t need it anyway! I LOVE that lesson even though it took me a long time to really get it.

Now, here’s what I wanted to say in all of this. I’ve done some things in my life that I’m REALLY not proud of. In all of that, I’ve been asked if I regret the things that I’ve done. Here’s what I’ve learned about regrets. They aren’t fruitful. They serve NO purpose except to keep us from repeating the same mistakes. Because of this, regrets really shouldn’t be regrets. They should be more like reflections on something that you want to do differently in the future.

So, when you make a mistake and, then obtain all of the forgiveness from God and all other parties involved, then just leave it with God. (Reminder: You can only sincerely ask forgiveness. You can’t MAKE the other person forgive you. God always forgives you when  you are sincerely repentant.  As long as you’ve sincerely sought forgiveness, then you’ve done what is required of you; it’s time to let it go!)  It is what it is. God’s only allowed you to remember your mistakes so that you won’t do it again. Dwelling on them just calls God a liar when He said that He forgives you and makes all things new. So, don’t call Him a liar. Accept this blessing that He longs to give to you! Let His love, forgiveness, and grace make you BRAND NEW!! His forgiveness has already been given! Now, all that’s left to do is for you to accept it and move on to make your life and your service to Him more fruitful.

Please think about this and really pray about it. I KNOW that you will begin to find all of the peace that God has for you, but this is an integral part. You can’t have HIS peace without THIS piece of the puzzle. Whatever it is, if its already been made right, then let it go. Leave it at the cross and God will give you His peace that passes all understanding which shall keep you heart and mind in Christ Jesus!

Here’s the scripture! Hold tightly to it and learn to live it!!

God bless!

Nikki

6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.                Phillipians 4:6-7

Coping With Fear and Anxiety

Mar13

Source: Daily Devotional – Scripture – Teaching | Joyce Meyer Ministries

Here’s a thought that Joyce Meyer shared in her devotional today.  She addresses the issue of fear. Fear is something that EVERY person has struggled with at some point in life including me. Fear used to be a HUGE part of my life. So many people that I coach are so stricken with fear that they are simply paralyzed!!!  So, what’s a person to do?

Well, the best advice that I can give is that we must learn to trust God with the things that we fear. So, how can we do that? Well, here are some tips.

  • Memorize scriptures that comfort you. Here is a scripture that I love.
    • 1 John 4:18King James Version (KJV)18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
      King James Version (KJV)Public Domain

      You can find many others at Bible Gateway. I love to use this resource in my Bible study.

       

  • Pray. Ask God to comfort you. I know that this in one that we, as Christians, should just automatically do, but you might be surprised at the number of people who don’t even remember to pray about it until last!
  • Distraction is a great way to stop feeling fearful. Read a book or watch a show or a movie that makes you laugh or something that is drastically different from the emotion of fear. It works! Give it a try!
  • Call prayer lines and ask people to pray with you.  This is a great one when you are struggling through a night of sadness, fear, or anxiety. These Believers are just a phone call away!
  • Try drawing, coloring, or doing a craft. I’m speaking as someone who has spent many sleepless nights. These are things that I, myself, do when fear or anxiety tries to get a hold of me. They work! Really, they do!
  • Take a hot bath. This will relax you. Try putting some fragrant bubble bath in the water with you. This will use your senses to relax you.

These are just a few of the techniques that I use and recommend. I pray that you will give them a try and see what a difference they can make in your life!

God bless,

Nikki