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My Habits To Wake Up With Joy

May12



Hi, everyone!!! I pray that you are all well and that your day has been good! I know mine has! Every day that God gives me is a good one! I pray that is your experience too!

I know that it’s often hard to wake up each day feeling joyful but I’m here tonight to give you a couple of tips on how to be sure that you wake to each morning with hope in your heart. There really are things that you can do to make sure that you have a good day. The kind of day you have is not just happenstance. It’s a choice! That’s the GOOD NEWS!

Many people believe that they will have either a good or bad day based on their circumstances, but this isn’t the way that it has to be. We CAN CHOOSE what kind of day we are going to have regardless of our circumstances. It really is a matter of your mindset. If you choose to look at what might go wrong, you choose to keep yourself on the defense throughout the day. If you’ve ever dealt with someone who is constantly defensive, and we all have, you know that it is a tiresome task. As hard as it may be to believe, dealing with defensiveness is tiring, not only for the person who is experiencing the blows of the attitudes that come with it, but it also drains every drop of energy from the person who has to keep up the guard. I don’t know about you, but I never really thought about that way. It makes sense though. How draining would it be to constantly feel that you have to fight every person and every word that comes your way?

I’m here to offer you some hope. Only one person gets to choose whether you are happy or unhappy. That person is you. Joy is a state of mind. I want to share a couple of things with you that I do to make sure that I KEEP my joy. I, often, tell friends, clients, and anyone else I think might need to hear it that no man can steal your joy except you give it to him. You wouldn’t hand someone your wallet with your cash in it. Would you? Of course not. Well, your peace of mind is much more valuable!! Hold on to your peace at ALL costs. You control your words and actions and a you will remain in control of your own joy.

Here are a couple of things that I do that truly help me to hold tightly to the joy that I possess. Let me tell you, joy is MUCH easier to hold onto than it is to get back once you lose it.

The first thing I’d like to share with you that I try to do to stay joyful is that I work to stay as close to God as possible. I keep His Word forever on my lips and in my heart and mind. I continually keep a dialogue going with my Savior throughout every day and every night. He WANTS us to be joyful!! If we stay close to Him, then He will help us to keep our joy in our possession. To do this, we must talk to Him often, repent continually, and strive every moment to obey His commands. Keeping His Word in our hearts will make that doable as we lean on Him for direction, strength, wisdom, and understanding.

The second way that we can work to be sure to begin each day with the joy that we want to maintain is to take care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Be sure to eat and sleep as healthily as possible. If you’re not nourished or rested, then your defenses will be down and you will have less control over your emotions. While you are taking care of your physical health, you should consistently be paying close attention to what you are thinking about. This might sound silly, but you can choose what you allow in your mind. Now, don’t get me wrong. You may not be able to stop thoughts from popping into your mind, but only YOU can decide how long you will think about it. The more quickly you replace an undesirable thought with a desirable one, the easier it will be to keep the negative thinking under control. If you struggle with this skill, then I highly encourage you to seek professional help. That help may come in the form of a life coach or therapist. I, personally, have exercises that I implement with my clients that I find to be very effective at helping to learn to control what a person is consistently thinking.

I hope that this has given you some food for thought. I can assure you that working on refining your thought life will prove to be valuable in your quest for happiness. There is NO substitute for this step to achieving lasting joy. Don’t hesitate to start working on these skills. I can promise you that you will wonder why you waited so long!!

Thanks for joining me and I look forward to meeting again soon. If I can help you to find the lasting joy that God longs for you to have, then I pray that you will get a hold of me. I, truly, believe that, in addition to an intimate walk with God, taking control of your thought life is one of the most important ingredients to living a Godly and joyful life.

Many blessings!!

Nikki Hodson

Owner/Christian Life Coach

Nikki Jordan Life Coaching

Having Hope by: Nikki Hodson

Apr5

 

As a Christian, I’ve read about hope and heard it            mentioned many times. We say we HOPE in The Lord,    but what is hope really? What’s the difference between hoping to obtain something and wishing for it? Why does the Bible so often talk of the believer as someone who has hope as opposed to wishing to go to Heaven or obtain favour from God?? Well, here’s the difference.

The original 1828 dictionary by Noah Webster tells us that hope is defined as:

Confidence in a future event; the highest degree of well founded expectation of good; as a hope founded on God’s gracious promises; a scriptural sense.

As a believer, God doesn’t want us to WISH He would answer our requests or that He would allow us to make Heaven our home. He wants us to have HOPE in those things. According to the Webster definition of hope, we don’t have to blindly wish it would happen, but we can truly EXPECT it to become a reality with a great degree of certainty! How reassuring is that?!

The Greek word, ἐλπίς or elpis simply means that the word hope as used in 1 Peter 1:3  is derived from the primary word ἔλπω or elpo which is defined as:

(to anticipate usually with pleasure);
expectation (abstract or concrete) or confidence: – faith hope.

So, in order to hope for something, we must have confidence in that thing or the materialization of that occurrence.  I like that Webster defines this anticipation as being one with pleasure. Why would we hope in something that wouldn’t be pleasurable?

The truth is that we wouldn’t. By definition, if we hope for something, then that something is by definition something that we want. So, when we hope in God, that means that we desire God and believe that He is good and will give us good things.

Now, we can read 1 Peter 1:3 in a whole new light and with even greater anticipation of all that The Father has for us!

1 Peter 1:3
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, which according to his abundant mercy hath begotten us again unto a lively hope by the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,

So, let’s revel in that hope!!!  Let’s praise Our God for His goodness! He REALLY IS a GREAT GREAT God!!!!

Until next time, God bless and be sure to put your trust in Him!

All my love,

Nikki

 

Regrets

Mar31

Hi, All! It’s late here and I’m not going to write a bunch, but I do have something on my heart that I feel that The Lord wants me to share with  you.

Up until maybe the last year or two, I would throw the biggest fit when I didn’t get my way. Yes. I’m confessing to  you all. But, God NEVER gave up on me and others who are close to me have marveled at the difference in me.

So, what’s different? Well, my walk with God is different. I’ve learned to trust Him more and not to get upset when things don’t go my way. You see. I never KNEW that I could live if things didn’t go my way! Isn’t that sad??? I think it is.

But, here’s what God has done for me. God has changed me!!! He’s helped me to know that it’s OK if things don’t go my way. He’s also let me know that He forgives me for my childish behavior and that I can be strong and ask forgiveness of others.

Well, I’ve asked the forgiveness that I’ve needed to ask and I feel like a brand new person!  Things are coming together and, more importantly, my relationships are being renewed and restored!!! I can’t tell you how thankful I am!!! I’ve learned that God is all that I need and that if He hasn’t given it to me, then I didn’t need it anyway! I LOVE that lesson even though it took me a long time to really get it.

Now, here’s what I wanted to say in all of this. I’ve done some things in my life that I’m REALLY not proud of. In all of that, I’ve been asked if I regret the things that I’ve done. Here’s what I’ve learned about regrets. They aren’t fruitful. They serve NO purpose except to keep us from repeating the same mistakes. Because of this, regrets really shouldn’t be regrets. They should be more like reflections on something that you want to do differently in the future.

So, when you make a mistake and, then obtain all of the forgiveness from God and all other parties involved, then just leave it with God. (Reminder: You can only sincerely ask forgiveness. You can’t MAKE the other person forgive you. God always forgives you when  you are sincerely repentant.  As long as you’ve sincerely sought forgiveness, then you’ve done what is required of you; it’s time to let it go!)  It is what it is. God’s only allowed you to remember your mistakes so that you won’t do it again. Dwelling on them just calls God a liar when He said that He forgives you and makes all things new. So, don’t call Him a liar. Accept this blessing that He longs to give to you! Let His love, forgiveness, and grace make you BRAND NEW!! His forgiveness has already been given! Now, all that’s left to do is for you to accept it and move on to make your life and your service to Him more fruitful.

Please think about this and really pray about it. I KNOW that you will begin to find all of the peace that God has for you, but this is an integral part. You can’t have HIS peace without THIS piece of the puzzle. Whatever it is, if its already been made right, then let it go. Leave it at the cross and God will give you His peace that passes all understanding which shall keep you heart and mind in Christ Jesus!

Here’s the scripture! Hold tightly to it and learn to live it!!

God bless!

Nikki

6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.                Phillipians 4:6-7

We Serve a Prayer Answering God!

Mar30

“Faith in a prayer-hearing God will make a prayer-loving Christian”   -Andrew Murray

When I was reading this quote today, I really wanted God to show me what His insights are into this particular quote. So, I started praying that God would enlighten me. One things that God is TRULY GREAT at is answering the prayers of His saints!! So, I felt that I should just keep praying, keep meditating on this quote, and keep writing this because of this. I’ve learned many things about our God in the 25 years that I’ve served Him. One of the great things that I’ve learned about Him is that it’s, often, important to step out in faith and let Him catch you as He fulfills His part of the promise!

Now, you might be wondering how this could happen this way, so I’m going to tell you! Have you ever tried to do something that you were just sure would NEVER work?  How easy was that? How much fun was it?  It’s like making a record that you don’t believe will sell a single copy. How silly!  We inherently know that would be silly and fruitless. Why would that be silly and fruitless?  Well, I’m so glad that you asked!

First of all, WHY on God’s green Earth would a person go to all of the trouble, expense, and effort to make a record that they thought would go no further than their bedroom recording studio?  To be honest with you, I don’t believe that they would. I believe that if someone went to all the effort of properly recording a production, then the belief in the product is unspoken, but completely real.

We, as intelligent human beings, don’t normally tend to put all of our time, effort, and money into things that we don’t believe will accomplish anything. That’s JUST NOT the way that it works.

So, back to the Andrew Murray quote.

“Faith in a prayer-hearing God will make a prayer-loving Christian”   -Andrew Murray

If a person is making music that they are COMPLETELY convinced will be loved by and a blessing to others, then that person will, innately enjoy the music and the production of it. In the same way, if a Christian truly believes that God hears and answers our prayers, then we will, absolutely, LOVE offering those prayers to Him!

So, the next time that you pray, go to God like a child who believes that his or her Father will bless them with all of the best that he can bless them with. God will LOVE that!!! When God is pleased, then it is His pleasure to bless His children.  Believe that God wants to give you great things because He truly does!

Luke 12:32  Do not be afraid and anxious, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom. (Amplified)

God WANTS to give you great things. He WANTS you to be happy and fulfilled. His only requirement is that you put Him first in your life which is His rightful place. This is what God’s Word says:

Matthew 6:33

33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

So, if we put it all together, we know that God teaches us that if we believe that The God that we serve is a God who hears and answers our prayers, then we will be people who love to pray!!! It’s an unending circle too! The more that we pray, then the more that we will LOVE to pray and, then the more that we love to pray, the more that we will pray!!!

So, remember that you have to believe that God is a prayer answering God because, in God, you get what you expect. Well, in life, you pretty much get what you expect. So go to God expecting Him to be kind to you and to want to bless you and He will! It’s really not complicated.

Remember that God loves you SO MUCH and LONGS to give you the keys to The Kingdom. Let’s seek Him today believing that He is waiting for us to come to Him and that He has BIG rewards that He wants to give to us!!

God love you all and so do I!!
God bless,
Nikki

 

 

Let’s Talk About Love

Feb21

by Nikki Hodson – Founder and Christian Life Coach at Nikki Jordan Life Coaching

Hello, Everyone!

I pray that you are all well. It seems that God has been talking to me a lot about LOVE. Now, some of us think that this is a dirty word. It really isn’t. The concept of love is an unfortunate victim of the society that we live in today. People today are so accustomed to just walking away from things because they are “too hard”. What happened to the time when people just persevered because that’s what was right?

The society that we live in today is what I like to call a “fast food society”.   We are so accustomed to being able to go to the drive through and leave with a complete meal in less than five minutes. It’s sad to see that this impulsiveness has transferred itself to our personal lives. We are in SUCH a hurry that we make others feel like second rate citizens because of our lack of patience with them. You’ve either seen or been the person who is yelling at the cashier because she is new and isn’t as speedy as her counterparts. Come on!!! Don’t try to say that you’ve never been there. I know I’ve been there!

The thing is that we never seem to think about what kind of LOVE that shows to the guy or girl behind the counter. We don’t know what that person is facing on that day. Maybe her dog died on the previous evening. Maybe his grandmother is clinging to life in the ICU. Maybe she has no place to lay her head at night and spent the night sleeping on a park bench or in an alley. Maybe her boyfriend beats her every day. We don’t know!

So, while we are on our righteous pedestals, our words sting and our glances pierce the heart of an already wounded human being. So, what’s the answer?  Well, we need to relearn, or simply learn for some of us, how to have compassion for others. We need to remember when we, ourselves, lost a loved one or had just started a job. We need to remain aware of the fact that we, ourselves, aren’t any more perfect than anyone else.

So, as you go about your day, try to put yourself in the shoes of the person that you are feeling impatient with. Isn’t that what Jesus did for us when He came to live AND die for each one of us?

I’d LOVE to hear how each of you have learned to be more patient in these situations. I’d also like to know if you feel that you need more support in this area. Remember that help IS available. If you need coaching in this area, I’d love to help. I KNOW that God has awesome things for your life!!!

God bless and let me hear from you! This will only be a community if I’m not left alone to talk!!!

 

Thanks, so much, and remember that I love each one of you!

Hugs,

Nikki

 

 

 

 

What do you think?

Mar26

Hi, Everyone,

I’ve really been toying with the idea of taking my teaching aspirations a step further. I would like to make videos of them and make them available here on my site and maybe even create a you tube channel. I would LOVE to know what you all think of this idea. Are you interested in actually SEEING me as I teach? You see. This site is for YOU and not for me. I’m here to help you through whatever you’re going through and to encourage you. I never want you to feel alone. My philosophy is that people are WAY more precious than time or any material thing. The other thing is that I truly want to live that. Now, am I as good at it as I’d like to or need to be? No. I’m surely not, but I DO long to be the kind of person who can be God’s vessel to love others into wholeness. Please, be sure to let me know if you’d be someone who would watch my broadcasts should I choose to go video with some things. I really want to know what will make this ministry more helpful and interesting to you! You can answer me on my Facebook page.  You can find me listed under Nikki Hodson. I also have a Facebook page that is listed under Nikki Jordan Life Coaching. I pray that you’ll go to both of them and let’s get this party started! We don’t need to wait. We need to do whatever is necessary to become all that God has created us to be. Do you need encouragement? Do you need someone to guide you on your path to reach your goals? Are you looking to improve your communications skills and/or your relationships, but don’t know how? Well, I’m qualified to help you to achieve a variety of things to help you to live the best life possible. I pray that you will contact me now!!!! I’m really not that far away!!! I love you all! Nikki Hodson Christian Life Coach and Life Skills Teacher at Nikki Jordan Life Coaching.  Remember that I am also a Bible Teacher. So, if you’re looking to grow closer to God through His Word, then I can help you to find what you’re looking for! Again, you can reach me on Facebook under Nikki Hodson or at 765-603-2608. May God truly bless you!!!